Tuesday, 10 July 2012

Tips for Surviving Hair Envy

Hey Curlies,

We can all agree that natural hair is beautiful and versatile. For those of us who are rocking TWAs (Teeny Weeny Afros), we aspire for huge afros and moptops. For those of us who can't master a twist out, we admire the women who wear out styles effortlessly. However, sometimes our goals for our hair creates something that is referred to as "hair envy." Have you ever caught yourself saying, "OMG, I WANT her hair"? Perhaps you've exclaimed, "Whoa, I wish I had hair like that" or "She has the prettiest curl pattern/texture."

Although you should always show love to other naturals, you should never sell yourself short. Trust, there are women out there who are in love with your hair as well. They could be intrigued by your fade which creates perfect waves throughout your head or dazzled by the way your afro stands tall and proud.

Society tries to tell us what beauty is and what perfection should be.Even so, you have to know and accept yourself for your beauty, perfections, and imperfections.

Here are our TOP Tips for Surving Hair Envy:

1. Create a love affair with your hair. Know what makes it happy and upset. Find out what makes it tick. This will make you happier and content so that you'll still love it even with it misbehaves.

2. Keep your goals in mind. Today, you are rocking a TWA, but in a year or two, you'll have more hair than you'll know what to do with. If you covet a silkier texture, remember you can always do roller sets, curl former sets, etc. to get the look you want.

3. Don't try the imitate the woman on the magazine, BE the woman on the magazine. Realize that society can be very limiting; even so,you are a whirlwind of fire and your hair is FIERCE.

4. Remember you have something other people want. No one has the most perfect hairstyle or hair type and if you rock your natural hair with confidence, other people will be watching you too.

5. Let go. At the end of the day, natural hair is JUST hair. Don't be caught up in the hype. You have to be a dynamic, intelligent, and powerful woman regardless of the way you choose to wear your hair! Work on YOU and then everything will fall into place.

Have you experienced hair envy?
How did you get over it?


  1. I strive towards healthier hair and what I do is ask what the person is doing to help their hair look the way it does. If I can try out their method and it works for me, that is good. If it does not work for me, then, I just...."move on",

    - discoveringnatural.blogspot.com

  2. Very good article. I see comments on videos all the time, where people are wanting one anothers hair! I love mine and others!


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